Kentucky Lovin’

Among the major adulting tasks in life, therein lies the art of filing taxes. Truth be told; I find it unpleasurable, but not as irksome as getting lost three times on my way to find the ultimate “tax guy’s” office this morning.

Yes, I had my GPS on but that device had me going around in circles. I slowed down “many-a-two-lane-roads” aka “hollers” to ask for directions from bystanders who were just as disoriented as I was. With no choice left but to be annoying, I called said tax-guy to help me directions and he kindly did. Three. Different. Times. And yes, that too was embarrassing!

The 3rd time is the charm they say, I finally found the office in plain sight. That certainly was not the most important thing I found today. This little gem of a restaurant was. It is You & Me, Coffee & Tea.


It reminded me of an antique store a la that-70’s-show-rustic-but-new-age with the decor. Whatever that means to you will fit the description properly too. I got all the shabby chic vintage vibes from this place! Sort of like the place where all the thrift store shoppers from my previous life reunite to eat and play cards and board games.



The menu variety was enough; I dislike being overwhelmed by food choices and I believe food should be consumed moderately anyways so this was right up my alley. I ordered the Cuban sandwich –  a tasty Kentuckian remix of it and I thoroughly enjoyed that. It was nice and quiet for the first half hour as I sat at the window practicing the relaxing science of people watching.



It was nice and quiet for the first half hour as I sat next to this cute phone at the window people watching Main St.



The closest I will ever get to “cowboy” or Western-styled boots 

Needless to say – what started off as this woman getting lost this morning led me to this palatable delight. If you are ever in Corbin, Kentucky I will love to take you here. Remember to bloom where you are planted.

Remember to always bloom where you are planted.


“Kentucky Loving” is a new segment to my blog where I share my experiences as a Cameroonian lady enjoying life in Southeastern Kentucky.




An Open Letter To The Confused Anglophone Cameroonian Youth


I woke up with a heavy heart for the anglophone youth of Cameroon. I was a first-year student at the University of Buea during one of the first strikes in 2004; you bet I was confused. I’d never been one to fight, so I left town in a taxi to Douala, determined to find another alternative to my first dream of being a doctor because that was not going to work for me. On a day like today when the Cameroonian youth is celebrated, I feel the need to encourage someone whose life or future is threatened by the political gestures that continue to keep them out of school.  Here is an open letter to all those affected by the current condition in our beloved country.

Dear Young People,

Education is important and in an attempt to demonstrate peacefully, the “wiser ones” among us have decided a peaceful strike is a way forward. In this, you may find yourself with nothing to do but first; do not befriend idleness.

To the young men, I pray that you will not be misled or distracted. Drugs & crime can become enticing ways to make a living. Do not fall for the lie, instead harness the strength of your creativity. Great inventions came from men stuck in basements and college dormitories. There are still tons of books off the internet, share and read books that enhance your thought process. Remember that anything that does not align with your original purpose is a distraction. You can teach yourself a new trade or work on a skill or sport. Distractions are meant to deter you from your path. Do not allow your life to go to waste, the noble way to make a living is the one you learned when you were younger – Hard work

To the young women, you did well when you decided you wanted to be an influential and productive member in your society. You chose to take the opportunity to educate yourself which was not always available to your mother or grandmother. The strike can leave you feeling shorthanded but remember your life cannot be wasted without your consent. Continue behind the plow, let your hobbies flourish, get involved with sports too, master those innate gifts and above all continue to educate yourself outside the classroom. Do not allow the richer men to distract you with alternatives to your personal success. Make wise decisions young girl, form relationships with mentors and older women who inspire you. Continue to aspire for your version of greatness and if your first dream dies in this process, dream another dream.




“Youth Day in Cameroon is celebrated annually on February 11. The celebration of the holiday reflects awareness and recognition of youth significance for the country. The first celebration of Youth Day in Cameroon was held in 1962, a year after British Southern Cameroon and French Cameroon unified.”    source

5 Survival Tips For Single People on Valentine’s Day.

Apparently, the themes this month include executive orders & black history  teddy bears, roses, chocolates, cards – yes, cards! Did you even know that after Christmas, the most cards are sold during the “Valentine Season” ?

It is so easy to get caught up in the social media proclamations of affection and romance which have become so easily mistakenly for honest and simple love. This is more likely to happen if you are a single person scrolling down your phone, alone and in your own bed in the middle of the night. Over the years, I have become increasingly comfortable with or without a Valentine. During the seasons when there is no Valentine whether by choice or chance here are a few things that you can do otherwise.

  1. Date Yourself! 
    Yes, that’s right no masturbation necessary. Do something good for yourself with your own resources. Buy yourself a classy gift, book a spa day,  order fresh roses for your bedroom or bathroom. If you are a nerd like me; burn you a good candle and cuddle up with your favorite book. Do whatever allows your inner being to feel the peace of being left alone.
  2. Help Someone Else!
    You don’t need to look too far to find someone who needs some love. My patients tell me how lonely they are all the time! There are several single parents, children and elderly people in your community who need plain filial love. Set aside your desire for erotism and be there in service to your neighbor. Remember it is indeed more of a blessing to give than to receive. Give them the affection which you so selfishly desire or maybe go keep them company that evening or bring them dinner. You may solve your “alone-ness” by being there for someone who needs it more than you do.
  3. Work Harder on your Art or Science!
    Use the time to pick up a shift at work or offer to work for someone who desperately needs the time off for a get away with their currently available sweetheart. It is a double win for you anyways, you will be getting your coins while facilitating someone else’s life. Do I need to remind you that there are numerous hidden blessings in sacrifice?
  4. Ditch the Self-pity Party!
    There is a time for everything under heaven! Keep envy in check. Make an effort to be happy for all the ladies and gents at your office who are receiving gifts this week. Be prepared with positive intentions and words towards them even if you don’t feel like it. Remember that the simple fact that you are in a single season doesn’t make it an indefinite season. Another way to get out of this mental funk is to deter your mind – go for a run to get your endorphins levels up or host a singles part for other aspiring lovers like yourself who have nowhere else to be on the night of Feb 14th.
  5. Have Fun with Life!
    Remember, it is just 24 hours out of the entire year and you should be feeling and giving love all year long anyways. Do not do love a disservice by boxing its meaning up into one miserable night in February. Let your agape be felt by all those whom you meet today and always. Great love is coming your way!